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Preventing Behavior Problems in Young Children
The goal of discipline is to help children develop self-control. Discipline is setting limits and correcting misbehavior. Discipline is also helping children feel good about themselves. As a parent, you can avoid behavior problems by doing the following:

Make time each day for fresh air and outdoor play.
Give your child many opportunities for physical activity and exercise daily. Many children need to run off some of their energy.

Use distraction or redirection.
Instead of saying "NO," give your child something interesting to do. If she is climbing a fence, you can say, "Come and play on the swings," or sing a silly song to change the focus.

Make sure your children have toys that are right for their age.
Toys for young children should be simple to play with. Don't give them too many at once. And put frustrating toys out of reach.

Keep your instructions clear and simple.
Children two years of age and younger have trouble remembering and understanding rules.

Allow time for transitions, especially at bedtime.
If your child is tired and cranky, be understanding and help them to calm down. Having a short, quiet time with no activity can ease the transition to sleep before a nap or bedtime. Routines, such as reading a book before bed, help.

When you say "No," mean it.
When a parent says "no," the child may hear, "Well, maybe..." and test you. Children will often try pleading, whining and crying to get their way. The solution? Don't say, "no," unless you are prepared to stick with it. In the end, your consistency and firmness will make your child more secure.

Don't give in to tantrums.
Giving in to temper tantrums only leads to more tantrums. If you are in a public place, say, "Stop now, or we will have to leave," then follow through if necessary. If you behave with dignity and firmness, you won't come across as a bad parent. At home, send the child to her room until she calms down. Tell your child, "I'm sorry you're upset, but I won't change my mind."

Ignore the little things.
Before raising your voice, ask yourself, "Is this important?"

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